10 Things I’ve Learned in First My 25 Years.

In turning twenty-five a couple of weeks ago, I’ve been reflecting on my past experiences Β (both good and bad.)

While this list is specific to me, I still think there are a few thoughts that could be applicable to anyone πŸ™‚

10 Things I’ve Learned in my First 25 Years

1) A relationship with God is of the utmost importance. It’s quite simple really: without God life is full of ups and downs, but with God, life is full of ups and downs AND so much hope!!!

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2) Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Take risks. I’m talking big and little things. I’ve conquered my fear of heights (sky diving, para-sailing and repelling) but I’ve also conquered my fear of public speaking/performance (by serving on my churches worship team.) You’ll surprise yourself with how much you can do when you take fear out of the equation.

3) A healthy lifestyle isn’t as unattainable as one would think. Over the past two years or so, I’ve been able to loose thirty pounds and maintain a healthy lifestyle. Little changes do add up and it just takes one step at a time until you’re in a full on sprint towards a healthier life.

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4) Family is for life, friends come and go. If there is one thing I’ve learned (especially in the last few years) it is that there are friendships that only last for a season…and that’s okay. I’m not saying it’s easy to move on from past relationships; however, sometimes it’s just the path God has planned for you. I miss my old church family like crazy but it’s not where I’m supposed to be right now. I miss friends that have moved away but we keep in touch as much as we can and it has prompted me to consider new relationships.

5) Stand firm in your convictions. Too many of my past mistakes were made simply due to peer pressure and the desire to fit in. If only I would’ve stood up for my beliefs in those instances…

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6) Sunscreen is important. Reapply, reapply, reapply. Yes, it can be sticky and uncomfortable and yes, it may make you break out; however, when weighing the pros vs. the cons – there is no contest.

7) Don’t rush marriage and don’t worry if you’re not married by the time you ‘thought’ you’d be. Timing is EVERYTHING. If you’ve read the story about how Marty and I first met, you’d see that sometimes you’re just at the right place at the right time. God is purposeful and has us exactly where we should be exactly when we should be there. If you’re not a believer, also note the statistics that the majority of the population ends up married at some point in their lives…also that 50% of all marriages end in divorce – so DON’T RUSH IT!

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8) Having expensive ‘stuff’ can be nice…but it can also be highly unsatisfying.

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9) Focus and determination towards your education is very important. I wasted far too much time in my educational career (focused on other irrelevant life issues.)

10) Trust is easily broken. Be honest – lies just did deep holes and wounds in your relationships.

And a couple extras…

11) Sometimes there is nothing better than a great book. The library is your friend.

12) Few things compare to the simple pleasure of a bike ride.red-vintage-wall-bicycles-fresh-new-hd-wallpaper.jpg

For each of these 10 things I have a story that I could share, it’s not just repeated from a list of β€˜life’s lessons’ or truisms of life. The list represents things in which I’ve lived and breathed. The ups and downs, the successes and failures. I am looking forward to another twenty-five years…

At this point in your life…what’s one significant thing you’ve learned?

26 thoughts on “10 Things I’ve Learned in First My 25 Years.

  1. Don’t rush marriage – yes! I dont know if it is because I go to school in the south or what, but I feel like all my friends are engaged, married, in a serious relationship or plan on being engaged…I just think you need time to find yourself after college. People change, but not always together.

  2. Great list. One of my friends is totally into getting married asap when she’s really not ready. It’s dumb to be caught up in the “I want to be married” thing, when the only thing that matters is if you’re ready to make a commitment to spend the rest of your lives together. I wish more people would take marriage seriously.

    1. I agree. I’ve seen people rush into marriage only to divorce less than a year later. It’s so sad 😦 I also think, once they’re married, that people don’t work hard enough and sacrifice for one another. It’s all about selflessness (easier said then done but you just have to keep recommitting to that thought!) You know? 😦

  3. #10…brings so much painful truth to my heart. Even the smallest lie or fabrication can do a world of damage!! I have to say almost this entire list I can relate to and this just makes me wish we were closer all the more!! I would love to be your friend, for more than just a season!! ;). You have clearly grown a lot in your 25 years of life and that is all that this would could ask from you, it’s all about learning and recreating yourself to be the best you that you can be..sounds cliche but so true! Great post.

    1. You’re right! I have been on both sides of a lie and it never turns out well. Even the tiniest little lie can spiral out of control- you know? I really wish we lived closer too 😦 Like I said before, if I am ever out in Seattle again- we have to meet up πŸ™‚ I may try to travel out to the west coast for spring break!!

  4. I really love this πŸ™‚ Especially #1…You just can’t go wrong there. He truly is amazing. I love what you said about not rushing marriage too. I used to think that it was just me and that I had something wrong with me but no more. He wants the very best for us!
    I have found out the same thing about friends, even friendships that you think will never end, do.
    Thank you for sharing this with us! Hope you had a great Monday!

  5. Very wise! These are all great, and I second them! Gosh, I’m going to be leaving my 20’s in about 10 months and I feel like the lessons just keep smacking me in the face. It’s a good thing, though. Being present in the moment is one message that keeps coming to me, over and over. Something else that my twenties have taught me is that plans are silly. God’s timeline for my life is completely different than the one in my head!

  6. what a wonderful list! i have to say i love that having a close relationship with god is number one. i have found that when i take care of that worry of other parts of my life floats away.

  7. I love this! I can definitely relate to #4. Family is so important, because friends will not always be there — it’s kind of sad, but at this age, everyone is going in so many different directions. I love #12 too. I’ve been loving my bike rides this summer!

    1. Bike rides really are amazing πŸ™‚ And I agree – it really is sad how everyone is going in so many different directions! I’m still mourning my friend moving to California. I still keep hoping she’ll be back one day!

    1. I started with little changes (EX. I didn’t realize how many calories I was drinking – green tea lattes, lattes in general, ‘fluffy’ coffee drinks, wine – so I cut those out and switched to black coffee.) I also started biking to school and places that were within a five-ten mile radius of my house. I know that you’re pretty active so just focus on changing things that can get overlooked. πŸ™‚ Let me know if you need anymore advice. My email is dianeboden.2@gmail.com!

  8. Love this, Di, and I agree with everything on the list πŸ™‚ Congrats on losing 30 lbs, I had no idea! That’s quite an accomplishment, but you’re so right — little by little is the way to do it! That’s how I lost my college 15 after I graduated haha

    1. Thanks Jorie! Yes, I had been wanting to loose some weight ever since my senior year in high school (I put on fifteen between junior and senior year and then another fifteen in the beginning of college) but I never thought it’d be possible. I felt hopeless and stuck but, slowly, I started changing things in my lifestyle and the pounds started to drop off! It was really encouraging and only made me work that much harder once I started seeing results!

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